Gabby Bernstein: The Powerful Practice That Changed This Self-Help Guru’s Life

In this episode of The Art of Being Well, I sit down with Gabby Bernstein, the #1 New York Times bestselling author of Self Help. Gabby takes us through her transformative journey of writing her latest book and the spiritual steps that truly changed her life. She shares how her approach to self-healing evolved, especially through the lens of Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy, and why reconnecting with the parts of ourselves we've abandoned is essential for lasting wholeness. Gabby also offers powerful insights on how to navigate wellness in a world that often promotes perfection, and the importance of showing up for yourself, even in times of uncertainty. Whether you're dealing with anxiety, struggling to find peace, or exploring the deeper meanings behind synchronicities, this conversation is filled with wisdom on how to approach your own healing journey with grace and authenticity.

For more than eighteen years, Gabby Bernstein has been transforming lives—including her own. The #1 New York Times bestselling author has penned ten books, including Self Help (publishing December 31, 2024), The Universe Has Your Back, Super Attractor and Happy Days. Gabby was featured on Oprah’s SuperSoul Sunday as a “new thought leader.” The New York Times identified Gabby as “a role model for a new generation of spiritual seekers.” She is a regular guest on Good Morning America, Today and Live with Kelly and Mark, among other leading media outlets. In 2023 she launched the innovative gabby coaching app to democratize spiritual self-help and be your coach—anytime, anywhere. In her weekly podcast, Dear Gabby, she offers up real-time coaching, straight talk and conversations about personal growth and spirituality. From her start hosting intimate conversations with twenty people in her New York City apartment, Gabby has grown to speaking to tens of thousands in sold-out venues throughout the world. For more, visit gabbybernstein.com.

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A few of my favorite things we cover in this episode: 

•  Gabby Bernstein’s journey of writing her newest book, Self Help.
• How Gabby’s approach to writing Self Help evolved and the inspiration behind it.
• The structure of Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy: How it compares to traditional therapy and helps individuals reconnect with their true self.
• The goal of IFS: Reclaiming exiled parts of ourselves and integrating them to experience greater wholeness.
• The challenges of wellness in the age of social media: How social media often portrays unrealistic perfection and the importance of moving through challenges with grace.
• Practicing what Gabby teaches: How she is implementing the teachings from Self Help in her life, especially leading up to her book launch.
• Advice for someone struggling with anxiety and a need for certainty during uncertain times: How to find peace without needing control.
• Gabby’s upbringing and spiritual background: Growing up in a spiritual home and the impact it had on her current practices.
• The potential struggles of growing up in a spiritual or religious environment: Overcoming spiritual or religious hurt and finding your own path.
• Gabby’s evolving understanding of God over the years: How her spiritual journey has shaped her perspective on the divine.
• The concept of “guides” and what they mean to Gabby: How she understands and connects with spiritual guides.
• Exploring synchronicities like seeing 11:11: Is it just confirmation bias or a deeper spiritual message? Gabby shares her thoughts.

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In Health,

Dr. Will Cole